Behavior
1.) Be graceful. Substitute clumsiness and jerky movements with graceful and fluid actions. True girly girls appear like they're floating. Put your shoulders back and chin up. This is a difficult step, but also a crucial one. Being graceful doesn't mean you have to hate sports and walk on tiptoe. Just make sure you walk with your head up, shoulders rolled back and your back straight. Don't swagger, or swing your hips. It looks exaggerated and weird. Don't swing your arms either - keep them by your side.
2.) Have a bright personality, bubbly and happy. Don't giggle all the time, because people will find that annoying. Instead, make other people laugh, and be cute. Don't take yourself too seriously.
Always be nice and generous. Having a selfish and nasty attitude toward others will drag you far away from being ladylike. Always have a smile on your face, and be willing to let people borrow things from you. Be nice to everyone, even people who you think are losers, because nobody is a loser and everyone is a human being with feelings. Everyone deserves a chance. Don't exclude people from games, gifts, etc. keep your promises and don't gossip. Don't be mean or hot headed-always keep your cool.
3.) Don't let anyone mess with you. If someone is bullying you in any matter, you don't have to put up with it. Don't let anyone walk all over you. This is the time to calmly tell someone who is mistaking your niceness and generosity for weakness that you will no longer be associating with them. Do not "unleash the nasty" as this will cause people to think that you are a fake person. Have a few comments prepared if someone is insulting you. But always be nice. There are no exceptions.
4.) Be romantic. Being a girly girl is also associated with romance. Be sure to read romance novels and develop a keen interest in poetry. You can also make this your music style by listening to love songs.
5.) Stop swearing. Swearing or talking loudly is most definitely unattractive, and not ladylike. It may be hard to stop, but swearing is one of the worst things you could do if you're trying to be girly. Try making a deal with your friends about not swearing for a day. Prove to yourself that you can control the things that come out of your mouth. Try saying things like, "Oh, poop" and "Darn it." Try not to use hurtful words like "idiot" or "moron." They're not okay. Try to make calm and civil comebacks, not the regular harsh insulting words. It'll take practice, but it's a huge step toward being ladylike and girly. Learn to talk well. Talking well is quite an art. Find a good tone so that people can hear you without straining their eardrums or covering their ears. A medium tone is best. If you enunciate your words in a strong accent, not many will understand you.
6.) Don't stuff your face with food. Instead, chew your food and don't make any noises or gulp it down. Don't take huge bites either - just normal ones. To look normal as possible when eating take a bite and count to 20 in your head while chewing then swallow. Avoid eating anything that could get messy and sticky. Don't slouch when you're sitting in a chair - press up against the back of the chair and plant your feet firmly on the floor. Avoid folding your arms too - it gives off a "get lost" vibe, and can make you look unsure about who you are and where you stand. Try not to put your hands in your pockets too much either. Just practice keeping them by your sides. It feels awkward, but actually looks completely normal.
7.) Hang out with gal pals. Girls love the mall, shopping, and almost anything associated with beauty. Get a group of friends and have a shopping spree, makeovers, a sleepover, a bake sale or any girl-related activity.
8.) Keep a diary. Write down whatever motivated you throughout the course of the day or anything that was interesting.
9.) Be organized. If you are organized, you'll always be able to find the things you're looking for. Being disorganized is unladylike. Make sure your belongings are neat. Make sure you label and cover all of your binders, folders, and textbooks. Try covering them with clear contact paper - it looks a lot neater. If you like patterned contact paper, try the metallic looking varieties that come in red, silver, blue and gold. Label your things and look after them to make sure they don't get lost or damaged. Buy some nice pencils and pens. Make sure you always have enough of everything - constantly asking to borrow things isn't ladylike. When buying a school bag, go for light and neutral colors and posh brands - stuff that's good quality. Don't buy anything in dark colors like navy blue or black.
10.) Concentrate in school. It's important to be intelligent at school. Don't say "like" at all, unless you are using the actual word in a grammatically correct sentence or simile. Try hard in every subject and class you take, and always hand in homework on time. Don't talk during class - you have loads of time for that later. Don't pass notes either – it’s embarrassing if you're caught. Ask questions and participate in class discussions. Try to get involved with the school and its activities too. Reading up on background information about a topic you're studying is good, and can actually be interesting. Help others if they're struggling, and don't suck up to your teachers.
11.) Read Magazines. Magazines are a great way to help you get caught up on everything going on in Hollywood and in the fashion world. The most popular magazines are gossip and fashion, but you can read anything you like. Lots of fashion magazines give you lifestyle tips that come in handy all the time. The gossip magazines keep you updated on what's going on with celebrities.
2.) Have a bright personality, bubbly and happy. Don't giggle all the time, because people will find that annoying. Instead, make other people laugh, and be cute. Don't take yourself too seriously.
Always be nice and generous. Having a selfish and nasty attitude toward others will drag you far away from being ladylike. Always have a smile on your face, and be willing to let people borrow things from you. Be nice to everyone, even people who you think are losers, because nobody is a loser and everyone is a human being with feelings. Everyone deserves a chance. Don't exclude people from games, gifts, etc. keep your promises and don't gossip. Don't be mean or hot headed-always keep your cool.
3.) Don't let anyone mess with you. If someone is bullying you in any matter, you don't have to put up with it. Don't let anyone walk all over you. This is the time to calmly tell someone who is mistaking your niceness and generosity for weakness that you will no longer be associating with them. Do not "unleash the nasty" as this will cause people to think that you are a fake person. Have a few comments prepared if someone is insulting you. But always be nice. There are no exceptions.
4.) Be romantic. Being a girly girl is also associated with romance. Be sure to read romance novels and develop a keen interest in poetry. You can also make this your music style by listening to love songs.
5.) Stop swearing. Swearing or talking loudly is most definitely unattractive, and not ladylike. It may be hard to stop, but swearing is one of the worst things you could do if you're trying to be girly. Try making a deal with your friends about not swearing for a day. Prove to yourself that you can control the things that come out of your mouth. Try saying things like, "Oh, poop" and "Darn it." Try not to use hurtful words like "idiot" or "moron." They're not okay. Try to make calm and civil comebacks, not the regular harsh insulting words. It'll take practice, but it's a huge step toward being ladylike and girly. Learn to talk well. Talking well is quite an art. Find a good tone so that people can hear you without straining their eardrums or covering their ears. A medium tone is best. If you enunciate your words in a strong accent, not many will understand you.
6.) Don't stuff your face with food. Instead, chew your food and don't make any noises or gulp it down. Don't take huge bites either - just normal ones. To look normal as possible when eating take a bite and count to 20 in your head while chewing then swallow. Avoid eating anything that could get messy and sticky. Don't slouch when you're sitting in a chair - press up against the back of the chair and plant your feet firmly on the floor. Avoid folding your arms too - it gives off a "get lost" vibe, and can make you look unsure about who you are and where you stand. Try not to put your hands in your pockets too much either. Just practice keeping them by your sides. It feels awkward, but actually looks completely normal.
7.) Hang out with gal pals. Girls love the mall, shopping, and almost anything associated with beauty. Get a group of friends and have a shopping spree, makeovers, a sleepover, a bake sale or any girl-related activity.
8.) Keep a diary. Write down whatever motivated you throughout the course of the day or anything that was interesting.
9.) Be organized. If you are organized, you'll always be able to find the things you're looking for. Being disorganized is unladylike. Make sure your belongings are neat. Make sure you label and cover all of your binders, folders, and textbooks. Try covering them with clear contact paper - it looks a lot neater. If you like patterned contact paper, try the metallic looking varieties that come in red, silver, blue and gold. Label your things and look after them to make sure they don't get lost or damaged. Buy some nice pencils and pens. Make sure you always have enough of everything - constantly asking to borrow things isn't ladylike. When buying a school bag, go for light and neutral colors and posh brands - stuff that's good quality. Don't buy anything in dark colors like navy blue or black.
10.) Concentrate in school. It's important to be intelligent at school. Don't say "like" at all, unless you are using the actual word in a grammatically correct sentence or simile. Try hard in every subject and class you take, and always hand in homework on time. Don't talk during class - you have loads of time for that later. Don't pass notes either – it’s embarrassing if you're caught. Ask questions and participate in class discussions. Try to get involved with the school and its activities too. Reading up on background information about a topic you're studying is good, and can actually be interesting. Help others if they're struggling, and don't suck up to your teachers.
11.) Read Magazines. Magazines are a great way to help you get caught up on everything going on in Hollywood and in the fashion world. The most popular magazines are gossip and fashion, but you can read anything you like. Lots of fashion magazines give you lifestyle tips that come in handy all the time. The gossip magazines keep you updated on what's going on with celebrities.