Be confident
Be confident. Remember the first rule of convincing other people you're amazing: you have to believe it yourself. The quickest way to communicate this to other people is through your body language. Stand tall, keep your chin parallel to the ground and your shoulders back, and look straight ahead. Make a few seconds of eye contact with each person you pass, and hold someone's gaze when you're talking to him or her. Don't walk quickly down the halls, be sure to pause and socialize with people. Most importantly, don't forget to smile!- Speak clearly and at a reasonable volume. Mumbling or speaking too softly communicates that you're unsure of yourself, so speak up!
- If you tend to be shy, fake it 'til you make it. After awhile, you'll notice that your confidence stops feeling forced and starts feeling like a natural extension of your personality.
- Ignore gossips and rumors about you, and walk on like nothing ever happened. Avoid getting into tacky confrontations with anybody - if they have a problem, it's their issue, not yours.
- Speak clearly and at a reasonable volume. Mumbling or speaking too softly communicates that you're unsure of yourself, so speak up!
Master the art of subtle flirting. Flirting doesn't have to mean putting yourself way out there. If you do it right, it can actually manage to draw people in and make them more interested in you without them even realizing why it's happening. Try these things:- Let people catch you looking at them. For instance, if you're glancing at a guy across the classroom, keep throwing small, quick glances his way until he looks up and notices you. Smile a bit, then look away.
- If you're talking to a person one-on-one, drop your voice to a whisper if you're discussing a "secret." It doesn't have to be a real secret - the point is that if you're speaking more softly, he or she will have to lean in closer to hear you. If you play this right, it can lead to leaning close enough to whisper in the other person's ear.
- "Accidentally" bump into or brush up against people. Don't bowl them over completely, but do brush the edge of your arm against someone else's arm, or don't avoid a slight touch if you're leaning across someone to reach something.
- Know when to hold back. If you're putting out subtle signals and you don't feel any sparks flying back at you, rein it in. You can always try again later when the moment seems right.
- Let people catch you looking at them. For instance, if you're glancing at a guy across the classroom, keep throwing small, quick glances his way until he looks up and notices you. Smile a bit, then look away.
Pay a nice compliment. The most confident people are those who are able to verbally make others feel good without feeling jealous. If you're really trying to get someone's attention, pay him or her a genuine compliment. Pick something you know he or she is proud of, or that other people don't usually notice about him or her. Deliver it with a smile and with your voice slightly lower in tone than usual.